_Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
_Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
Asian Men
I receive 1000s of emails from my fans seeking interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (usually a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
Asian Men
As the Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so frequently ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for your first and last time despite my misgivings.
I was recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover exactly why it’s so controversial extensively in the bottom) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction once i sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.
In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes of you and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
Here is a list of a few of the things these girls will consciously do so that you can let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the truth is other women from African American to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a woman is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
Asian tattoos are a good conversation starter with females!
Maybe you’ve seen this sort - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to obtain pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act grave and say something such as, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I say?”
And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I want it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in a learning experience.
Girls who've had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique then one they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
Larissa Riquelme shot to fame when she announced at the World Cup that she wanted a Korean boyfriend
Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even if they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've some sort of Asian acceptance to make her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things as well; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die within the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are attempting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was introduced to the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted from this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions about the sexy crazy groupies such as the following him and the people in his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies keep to the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it be sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she actually is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If the comes up, use visual imagery to create a picture in her mind that appeals to all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your personal Korean BBQ, as well as the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food similar to this is sensual…just like sex. How you can a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It pertains to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You Do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - don't take this as generalizing, she’s just wanting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint an image about going on a vacation together. Begin with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up getting sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around inside the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my cup of tea, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s referring to how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The second kind of woman desires to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in which you say something towards the effect of “That is really amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and films - this kind of girl is infatuated with the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply just will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or pores and skin, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is certainly going well, take her hand to indicate the contrasting tones. Intangible things like intelligence, family, work ethic, second language usually are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we were little boys, perform melt under the praise of the beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments such as education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically produce a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and got married and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they would be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to remain emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping together with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of the time. So a white girl like this will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She will make this point and also further - she will try to guess your ethnicity to demonstrate that she’s “learned in the methods for Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to create her seem more desirable and receptive to me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s up to you to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.
While wearing, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine some of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you just might find yourself speaking with one woman that is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!
SO WHY WAIT UNTIL NOW To resolve THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously i was always not wanting to answer this question. It seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give saying she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
So just why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of asking the question means your LESS LIKELY TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. The thing is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve for ages been hesitant to answer because, over a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men overall to actually know the response to that question. In my opinion that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is known as “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the reply to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, in the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.
As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the last thing dating is, is risk-free.
Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man prepared to take risks (who does then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to get the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role to be dominant, forward, along with a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to appear, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first and then making her attracted to you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh your path into her heart (and then her pants)!
As you can tell, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a good looking or handsome guy. All women I’ve dated is physically (or even socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success most abundant in beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.
Instead, start using these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming interested in you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You ought to take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs for you to STAY when you’re already in a conversation with her rather than viewing them as indicators so that you can initially approach her.
Over time, what I’ve discovered with girls that specifically that like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll enjoy being there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, which is a gross difference.
And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only attracted to your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.
If you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the overall game early isn’t fair to yourself also to the many women you have yet to meet.
Asian Men
I receive 1000s of emails from my fans seeking interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (usually a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
Asian Men
As the Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so frequently ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for your first and last time despite my misgivings.
I was recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover exactly why it’s so controversial extensively in the bottom) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction once i sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.
In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of great interest that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes of you and I).
This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
Here is a list of a few of the things these girls will consciously do so that you can let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the truth is other women from African American to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a woman is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
Asian tattoos are a good conversation starter with females!
Maybe you’ve seen this sort - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to obtain pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act grave and say something such as, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I say?”
And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I want it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”
And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in a learning experience.
Girls who've had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique then one they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
Larissa Riquelme shot to fame when she announced at the World Cup that she wanted a Korean boyfriend
Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even if they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've some sort of Asian acceptance to make her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things as well; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die within the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are attempting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was introduced to the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted from this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions about the sexy crazy groupies such as the following him and the people in his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies keep to the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it be sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she actually is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If the comes up, use visual imagery to create a picture in her mind that appeals to all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your personal Korean BBQ, as well as the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food similar to this is sensual…just like sex. How you can a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It pertains to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You Do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - don't take this as generalizing, she’s just wanting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint an image about going on a vacation together. Begin with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up getting sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around inside the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my cup of tea, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s referring to how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The second kind of woman desires to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in which you say something towards the effect of “That is really amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and films - this kind of girl is infatuated with the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I just don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply just will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or pores and skin, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is certainly going well, take her hand to indicate the contrasting tones. Intangible things like intelligence, family, work ethic, second language usually are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we were little boys, perform melt under the praise of the beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments such as education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically produce a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and got married and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they would be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to remain emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping together with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of the time. So a white girl like this will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She will make this point and also further - she will try to guess your ethnicity to demonstrate that she’s “learned in the methods for Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to create her seem more desirable and receptive to me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s up to you to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.
While wearing, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine some of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you just might find yourself speaking with one woman that is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!
SO WHY WAIT UNTIL NOW To resolve THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously i was always not wanting to answer this question. It seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give saying she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
So just why haven’t I answered it until recently? Unfortunately, the act of asking the question means your LESS LIKELY TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. The thing is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve for ages been hesitant to answer because, over a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men overall to actually know the response to that question. In my opinion that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is known as “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the reply to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, in the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.
As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the last thing dating is, is risk-free.
Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man prepared to take risks (who does then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to get the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role to be dominant, forward, along with a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to appear, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first and then making her attracted to you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh your path into her heart (and then her pants)!
As you can tell, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a good looking or handsome guy. All women I’ve dated is physically (or even socially) out of my league. I never get those sort of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success most abundant in beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.
Instead, start using these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming interested in you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You ought to take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs for you to STAY when you’re already in a conversation with her rather than viewing them as indicators so that you can initially approach her.
Over time, what I’ve discovered with girls that specifically that like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll enjoy being there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, which is a gross difference.
And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only attracted to your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.
If you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the overall game early isn’t fair to yourself also to the many women you have yet to meet.